Also, idk if his Instagram is still deactivated or not, but I suspect he blocked me because he reactivated it and made his profile blank and only today his profile disappeared even from my DMs list, so. Fast forward, just yesterday, I contact that mutual friend and asked him for any contact info of my friend and he gave me a number that I can WhatsApp, which I did, but no answer yet, and I am not expecting one truthfully. I kept asking that mutual friend about him during this time off social media and I told him to let him know that I asked about him. That friend told me that he was taking days off social media and that he changed his phone number and advised me not to contact him at that time. Two days later he deactivated all of his social media accounts and I lost all contact with him, except a friend of his to whom he introduced me. I tried to calm him down and all and support him as much as I can considering we do not live in the same city. We became close friends in a day! We stayed over together for like 10 days and everything was going great, we even low-key thought of dating! However, one day he called, there was an emergency and he felt lost and everything apparently was going wrong. Thank you so much, I have just had this experience and I felt destroyed, even though we were not friends for that long.
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She told me that she planned to seek professional help for her problems. She said that due to these issues (which I won't divulge here for sake of privacy), we could be in contact going forward but that our friendship would most likely never be the same.
I was totally shocked that in all our years of friendship, she had never shared any of this with me. These issues were deep-seated and genuinely had nothing to do with me. She said she had been busy-and that the real reason she had not contacted me in so long was because of some issues in her life that she had never told me about in all the years we had been friends. She emailed to say that she had received my card in the mail, the one I'd sent all those months earlier. However, one day, completely out of the blue, she contacted me. I prayed a lot during this period of time, continually surrendering the situation to the Lord. Unfriending or blocking you on FacebookĪfter about six months of not hearing from the friend who had cut me out of her life, I had pretty much given up on ever hearing from her again.Not liking or commenting on your social media posts (despite, perhaps, liking or commenting on other people's posts).This term often manifests in a sudden cessation of digital communication e.g., One term that has emerged in recent years that begins to capture the pain of this trauma is "ghosting," which refers to the breaking off of a relationship by ceasing all communication or contact, typically without any explanation. Until quite recently, we didn't really have any good terms to describe the abrupt ending of a friendship-even though the emotional trauma can be just as great as a romantic breakup. But when it comes to platonic friendships, our language seems to be at a loss for words. We have several different terms to describe the end of a romantic relationship: we might say that one partner got dumped or jilted, or at the very least we can say that the couple broke up. You now have the opportunity to explore new friendships for a new season in your life.ĭumped? Jilted? Our Language Is at a Loss for Words You may realize that the friendship wasn't actually as perfect as you had once believed. You may feel a sense of peace and forgiveness.Īfter coming to peace with the end of the friendship, you may be surprised to feel a sense of relief. You realize it was better to have had the friend in your life, even if it was only for a season, than never to have had the friend at all. You've been on an emotional roller coaster, but eventually you feel you can begin to let go. You were always there when your friend needed you, and you worked hard to nurture the relationship. What does it say about you if you couldn't hold onto this person who was so dear to you? Will others think less of you? You begin to worry about what others might think. Is it something you did? Could you have been a better friend? You wonder what role you might have played in the ending of the friendship. You may obsessively replay memories of the times you enjoyed together, and you may experience physical symptoms of heartache. You feel a terrible sense of pain and loss. Your friend suddenly cuts you out of her life, and you have no idea why. Adapted from "Best Friends Forever," by Irene S.
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